I work with people of all ages who have trauma in their past that still affects them. My clients often feel that they should not be affected by their past because they are willing to let it go. The problem is, their past still has a hold on them. When we go through an experience that is just too much for us to understand and adapt to, we can get stuck. This stuckness can manifest as a phobia or as an inability to move forward the way you know you are capable of moving forward. I can help get you moving again.
Are any of these statements true for you?
You know that you are not fully using your native gifts; based on your intelligence and ambition you should be closer to your goals. Many times, we suffer setbacks as children. These setbacks can include the loss of a parent or other loving adult, abuse and trauma. When we look back on that time as adults, we can see that we didn’t have the resources we needed at the time to digest the experience and learn from it; we have stayed locked in the aftermath of trauma. Looking back, we realize that, after that event occurred, we no longer had the skills we needed to navigate in our world, which had become complicated and upsetting.
You are currently living through a nightmare. Your circumstances right now are extremely difficult and you are having a hard time getting through the day. This could be happening for any number of reasons, but you need help now.
You have gone through a period of time in which you experienced a lot of fear and/or stress. Even though the difficult situation is no longer active in your life, you have not bounced back. This period could involve illness (either your illness or the illness of someone important to you), a stressful period at work, or a time when you feared for your physical safety. You feel stuck, and you may now be experiencing fears that seem random and unrelated to anything.
You have had an awful experience with something or someone, and you just can’t seem to get past it. This experience could be something dangerous, like an attack by a dog or a car accident; it could be something you witnessed, such as someone being violently attacked, or it could involve shame and humiliation at the hands of a teacher or superivisor at work. It is possible to speed up healing dramatically so that you can enjoy your life again, instead of floundering in past memories that are hurtful or frightening.
You function fine in most areas of your life, but certain activities or places frighten you and you don’t know how to get past the fear. Sometimes we are not even sure what has happened to cause a phobia or fear, but it is possible for our ability to function to become compromised only in certain specific circumstances, and such as a fear of heights, a fear of water, or a fear of flying. Other times, we know exactly why we are fearful – perhaps it was an experience as a child with extremely painful dental work, or a medical procedure that was necessary but embarrassing and painful.
In addition to one or more of the above applying to you, you sometimes become overwhelmed by your circumstances. The overwhelm may cause you to withdraw, to lash out in anger, or to behave in other ways that seem too reactive once you have regained your composure. The main thing is that sometimes events get you off track when what you really want is to stay focused instead.
We are likely to be successful in our work together if the following statements apply to you:
You have a deep desire to live up to every bit of potential that you have, and you are willing to leave no stone unturned in getting there!
Even though you don’t want to wallow in the past, you would be willing to revisit past events in your life if you knew that doing so would help you to be successful and joyful.
You just know that you have what it takes to reach your goals, and you want some help and perspective in figuring out how to get there!
Do any of these statements resonate with you? If they do, please check out the How I Work page for more information!
Karen got me back on my feet, literally, after nine months of being unable to walk due to a back injury. I cannot recommend her enough.
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